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In previous posts, I’ve shared insights on Dental Fear & Anxiety, Dental Avoiders, and Dental Pain Exploiters. These all relate to the topic of Reasons People Hate Dentists.
Drama Queens love to share all of their personal dramaNow I’m going to flip things around and reveal the bane of a dentist’s existence – Dental Drama.
Before I can tackle that, I’ll first explain more about Personal Drama, the Expressive Profile and Toxic Drama.
Personal drama is about taking how you feel inside, and revealing that to others around you. You feel fantastic and everybody knows it. You feel upset and everyone gets the message loud and clear.Maybe you’re more reserved and not into drama. On the other hand, maybe drama is your thing.
Whatever the case, let’s explore what Personal Drama is all about…
Emotions can motivate you and help guide decisions, but they need to be tamed to be useful.
I’m still figuring out this stuff. Growing up with Spock as my role model didn’t exactly provide me with a deep emotional repertoire to draw upon.
I only made the breakthrough after reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. That’s where I realized that emotions could be extremely useful IF they can be mastered and channeled properly.
That’s a big IF.
Emotions can motivate you and help guide decisions, but they need to be tamed to be useful.
These 4 steps are self-explanatory, so what I’ll focus upon are the huge pitfalls at steps 2 and 4.
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The Rage Threshold seems to be disturbingly low.
A common mistake is to misinterpret emotions as “truth” instead of seeing them for what they really are – Action Signals that may or may not be helpful.
Without that Reflective Pause, your emotions would come rushing through you like a runaway freight train. When that happens, civility would be a casualty as you would literally crash into other people… much like that Oscar-winning movie Crash.
I loved that movie. It was more about cultural and racial conflicts, but the idea of emotionally-charged people crashing into each other certainly applies here.
We all have our worst moments.
Lately I see a lot more of those moments in people. The Rage Threshold seems to be disturbingly low.
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Don't allow negative emotions to dominateSuppressing your negative emotions is essential to have any hope of a productive life.
Without tempering, negative emotional outbursts would be practically reflex and your emotions would begin controlling your everyday life. People would steer clear of you to avoid the toxic fallout of your outbursts.
Without the emotional control provided by that Reflective Pause, you would behave like a sailboat without a keel – constantly being tossed about by every little breeze that comes your way. Without the calming affect of emotional stability, others could easily interpret your behavior as hostile or antagonistic.
The other pitfall to developing emotional maturity is in Owning Your Emotions. I’ll get more into that later with the topic of Toxic Drama.
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Does your life sometimes read like tabloid headlines? Those days where you experience moments of intense highs and lows?
How is it some people seem to attract far more drama than others? Each day becomes a string of dramatic adventures.
It comes down to your inclination to emphasize and express Personal Drama.
Some people diminish the drama, and some people emphasize it.
For those that emphasize, you can call that “wearing your heart on your sleeve.” Some would describe it as being a “Drama Queen.”
Whatever you want to call it, there’s plenty of theatrics going around these days. It seems we live in the Age of Personal Drama.
Disney has tapped into this trend with a slew of shows centered upon early-teens dramatizing on and on about relationships and everyday living. Young children can’t get enough of it.
Sharing Personal Drama online has become all the rage of late. You can chronicle your personal life on Facebook, share intimate details of your moment-to-moment activities on Twitter, and rant about the service at a local restaurant on Yelp.
No more living in quite indignation. Everyone gets to carry their virtual protest sign and vent their frustrations to anyone who’ll listen.
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There’s actually a medical term for this called Histrionic Personality Disorder. People with this disorder show a pattern of excessive emotional display and attention-seeking behavior.
According to Wikipedia’s definition, “Associated features may include egocentric tendencies, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, feelings that are easily hurt, and persistent manipulative behavior to achieve their own needs.”
A child throwing a tantrum is an obvious example of this behavior. Lots of children go through that stage and grow out of it as they mature.
What about adult tantrums? I’ll get more into that in Drama Queen Part II.
Stay healthy and keep smiling!
Dr. Joe 
About the Author: Dr. Joe Bulger is a West Toronto dentist. He’s also the owner-founder of Royal York Dental – a respected dental clinic serving Etobicoke since 1950.
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